So last night I had a long conversation with my dear friend Mistress DiDi. It’s really wonderful to have friends in this Lifestyle that share the same ethics and understand the art of Power Exchange. I appreciate her energy and vast wealth of knowledge. To listen to her talk about BDSM is like listening to a child who just purchased a new video game. It’s exciting. It’s challenging and it’s HERS. I hear pure joy when revisiting Mistress DiDi’s stories. Yet hear the sadness in her when we discuss the scene today.
We chatted about the recent release of subs and giggled extensively at the many advertisements for hookers and escorts who don a whip and call themselves ‘Dommes’. It is sad that many, due to media and public “opinion” do not know what Power Exchange is or the art of it. When you have television shows, porn that has BDSM elements & folks who misinterpret that the fashion of leather, latex & corsets validates them carrying an implement and calling themselves a Domme. It’s no wonder that many are jaded with the thought that sex is a must during a session. Such a sad reality.
I have a friend Kitty Von Dolce, who is an adult starlet- that while she appears in ‘Kinky’ & ‘BDSMish’ porn UNDERSTANDS that what she does on film is simply just that- for film. She doesn’t pretend to be a Domme and is actually very humble in her approach by outwardly stating: “I just do it on film”. I love Kitty’s openness that she will tell anyone, she knows nothing about BDSM/ KINK. What she portrays on film is an orchestrated fabricated fantasy. The illusion of dominance. Not true Power Exchange. It’s just porn with BDSM/ KINK elements. VERY different from the experience of Power Exchange. Recently she was asked to session and called me for advice. She told me from the very beginning she knew nothing about power exchange and wanted me to guide her. Protocol is something she is not familiar with and while she had no intention on sessioning- she wanted to honor the Lifestyle by approaching the sub properly. After discussing at length what I do and what it entails she admitted it wasn’t for her. I like her honesty. Her responsibility as a woman to say she didn’t know enough and she’d leave it to those who really live it. It’s rare to find honest people like that now a days. The average person would look at it as a ‘pay day’ and jump at the opportunity to make a quick buck even at the expense of another’s safety.
I admire those who want to explore and experience a Lifestyle that’s foreign in concept to them. It shows an openness and willingness to learn. Although in regards to BDSM/ KINK, indulging with someone who is not experienced can be volatile. Safety should always be paramount. Before beginning a session it totally surprises me how often new people I’ve played with will say: “No one has ever asked me if I have physical limitations or if I’m taking any meds.” To find a Domme/Dom that can nurture an exploratory experience with a masterful skill set is priceless.
In my conversation with Mistress DiDi we touched based about her article: Domme vs Dumme. Which I will say gave me such belly laughter, as each paragraph did indeed embody some one I’ve come across at some point in time. I encourage you all to read it. She’s a wonderful resource for many. I’m grateful to have people like Mistress DiDi and my best friend & Partner in Perv: Lady Jessica Sovereign in my inner sanctum. Friendships that bring me happiness and shared knowledge. Full of laughter and women I know that I can always learn from. While both women are powerful beyond compare they are very different, the one common thread we all share- LOVE for The Art of Power Exchange. Here’s to you my fellow Goddess’.
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